The Secret to True Confidence – What NOT to Say on Tinder

The best way to meet women is actually go out and meet women. But what if you wanna pick up girls while you’re taking a shit? If you have a Smartphone and a thumb then Tinder is your solution. This is how it works. Would I bang? Yes. No. Yes. Definitely not. Like anything else, there’s a tested sign to Tinder’s success.

By now, you’ve got a few matches, now what? Talk to her. Before I tell you how to talk to her, I have to show you how not to talk to her. We asked our friend Kelly to set up a new Tinder account and screenshot the messages she got. Why do we do this? Because we wanted you to see real messages from real people so you know exactly what to avoid.

In less than 24 hours of Tindering, she got over 600 messages from men. Let that really sink in. Every cute girl you’re talking to is getting bombarded with messages. We broke down the messages she got into three categories. The Generic Compliments, the Dull Openers and the Not So bad. Eighteen percent of messages were just generic compliments.

Things like, “Wow, I must say, you’re beautiful.” “You’re absolutely gorgeous.” “Hope you don’t offence of me thinking you’re adorable.” Oh, here’s a good one. “You look very hot in your pics.” While this might work in real life, it doesn’t really work online because everyone’s doing it. Fifty-two percent of messages were just boring as shit. Things like, “How you doing, hi, hey, how are you, hello, hey, smiley face,” “Hey, hey, what’s up, love?, how’s your week going? Hi there”. Why would anyone wanna reply to that? And eight percent were so bad that I just have to show you some of them.

I don’t know why a lot of guys do this. But they pretend like they have never been on Tinder before and they’re so naive. They say things like “Hi, wow, so this Tinder thingy actually works? Just joined. Tinder virgin here”. “I’m new to this Tinder thing. How’s it going?” Oh, and this one’s good. “I truly don’t mean to sound rude or in any way disrespectful by saying this, but I honestly think you’re really pretty. You have extremely nice hair and your smile truly boosts up your attractiveness. Again, I mean no disrespect. I’m just simply acknowledging your beauty.” And then there was a very small minority of messages that weren’t so bad. I’m gonna teach you how to be better than those guys.

Remember, being unique is important. So here’s what you should do to avoid being like most of these guys. This is the name method. Simply write her name with an exclamation mark. Our friend Sean came up with this one. It’s super effective especially if she doesn’t have a detailed bio or a ton of photos to comment on. Now this is the best way to do it. If you want some more specific info, you’re gonna have to open up her bio and actually read it. This girl listed a different place that she’s lived and also one of her favourite sports is hockey. Watch how I use this information.

Here, I use information from her bio to create a unique opener about hockey. And sure, a bit of my sense of humour, and then I threw in a dick joke for good measure. In this case, I noticed her Halloween costume. Remember, don’t filter yourself. Subtle hints of sexuality, keep it fun, and opens a door for her to flirt right back as she did here And lastly, my favourite. Role-play. Talking to strangers is supposed to be fun. So try this out. Role-playing is great because she can also play along. It becomes easy to text as both of you play out this ridiculous scenario. This is just one example.

Pretend like you’ve known her for ages. And she’ll open up as if you have. If you’re having fun, she’ll have fun. Once you’ve flirted back and forth, transition into getting her number. You might be thinking, why should I do this? We’re already chatting on Tinder. Well, once you get her phone number, you actually become real in her mind. You’re separating yourself from every other guys she’s talking to on Tinder. And when you do that, she’s way more likely to commit to a date.

Once you’re in her phone as a contact, you’re no longer “that guy from Tinder.” You’re a potential date. Once you’ve made it this far, treat her like a girl you just met off the street. Meet up with her, take her out, go have fun, you earned it.